“Parenting is one of the most challenging, demanding, and stressful jobs on the planet. It is also one of the most important, for how it is done influences in great measure the heart and soul and consciousness of the next generation, their experience of meaning and connection, their repertoire of life skills, and their deepest feelings about themselves and their possible place in a rapidly changing world.”
Jon and Myla Kabat-Zinn
Home is wherever I'm with you
Geoff and I met in India ten years ago. I was living in an ashram (a kind of Hindu monastery) in Rishikesh, the birthplace of Yoga. When we saw each other for the first, we both got the thunderbolt feeling.
We spent the first five years of our relationship studying yoga and meditation in India. On a six week silent retreat I came to realise my deep desire to be a mother. Geoff took a little longer to come to his decision and we spent a year working things out. Geoff went to Australia to spend some time in a Buddhist monastery. I moved to Spain.
In the end love brought us together again and we decided begin our family.
We became parents 6 years ago. It's been an amazing journey but not always easy. Once our first daughter, Amara, was born we were shocked to find how challenging it was to bring the many fruits of our yoga and meditation practice into our daily family life.
It was impossible to find the space and silence that we’d found on retreat as new parents, and looking back at that time five years on, it feels like our spiritual path really began the night Amara was born. It was a difficult period of surrender and re-adjustment: Like any journey that brings growth, we have to spend some time in the wilderness before we could find our way back home.
Since then we have had another daughter, Leilani, join our family and we have worked with our daughters, and selves, to patiently develop methods by which yoga and mediation could wind their way back into the fabric of our lives and beings.
The path of merging our spiritual and family life unfolds day by day, and is still very much a work in progress. We’ve found that it takes a delicate balance of dogged determination and, at the same time, the absolute willingness to yield to the demands of the present moment.